[The Davison Chart Relationship Chart is computed for a mid-point in time, in contrast to space as in the Composite Chart, in relation to a geographical mid-point or 'middle point' and drawn like a birth chart. The interpretation is similar to that of a Composite Chart however, when looking at transits, progressions and solar returns some astrologers prefer this over the composite chart for accuracy].
The composite Sun, like the Sun in a natal chart, is the heart of the relationship and its primary drive and focus. The sign in which it falls will color the entire relationship, as many of the important events in the relationship will occur when transiting bodies are in this sign. If it is strong in its house position and supported by good aspects from other bodies, the relationship will have a solid center and will tend to sustain itself despite the buffets of adversity. If it is poorly aspected or in a difficult house position, the relationship will be easily damaged and difficult to repair as the natural cyclical transits will tend to reinforce negative qualities of the relationship rather than positive. The Sun’s primary quality is restorative drive, the general impetus toward life and its sustenance, rather than any specific traits or areas of endeavor such as are represented by the planets. Therefore its placement will tell the overall thrust and style of the relationship and how well it bears up under fire, rather than give the details of just how it will do so. A badly placed Sun can mean a relationship that is almost certain to fail, because wounds to the partnership won’t heal themselves. A very well-placed Sun can mean a relationship that sustains and resuscitates itself so well that it may even be difficult to get out of should either partner choose to do so (as might be the case if the planetary aspects were very difficult or if the two natal charts themselves were in great conflict). It is the driving engine of the relationship and everything else orbits around it and derives life from its energy.
This position will flavor your relationship with a wide-ranging ability to see all sides of all issues and the world may be your playground, physically, mentally, and emotionally. Whenever you have finished exploring one facet of what you have together, the inclination will be not to stop there, but to leap on to another and yet another world to enter and explore. Barring any severe afflictions, this has the effect of picking out the good, amusing, and interesting and having a merry time with it and moving on before any potential trouble surfaces. This makes the relationship an uplifting resource and haven for both of you, particularly when either of you may be feeling a bit depressed. On the other hand, it will mean a tendency to gloss over differences that may surface later and cause complications, so it might be good for you each individually to chase after the bits and pieces you leave behind together as a unit and make sure that there is nothing troublesome. Because you emphasize the positive side of things, you can be a great help to others who tend to become preoccupied with the mundane.
The symbolism of the composite Moon in a relationship is that of reflection Ñ not in the sense of intellectual deliberation or thoughtful rumination but much more literally, reflective like a mirror. Whereas the Sun represents the primal, outgoing energy in the relationship, the Moon shows how the relationship reacts to situations once they have been presented to it. When someone approaches you with an idea, do you react to it, criticize it, laugh at it or with it? Steal it? Ignore it? Expand upon it? Extending this logic, it, of course means how you feel about a situation, the process and style in which your emotions are stirred. The things to which you react include each other, so the position of the composite Moon will be critical to the emotional well-being and functionality of the relationship, independent of your individual natures. Thus, a well-placed and well-supported composite Moon can lend clarity and cooperation to the most confused and befuddled people who might never expect to get along; whereas an afflicted composite Moon can throw dissension and conflict into the lives of the most well-adjusted and easy-going persons who normally get along with everybody. This is, of course, because this reflective, emotional effect is largely subconscious, and because it does not emanate from either of you in the usual way, you are unfamiliar with its style and rhythms. This accounts for a lot of the ÒmagicÓ - both good and bad - that is associated with relationships. On the positive side, it can mean a relationship that seems to heal one or both of you and just makes everything go right that didn’t before. This is a marvelous feeling but one that can lead to a mistaken dependency on your partner as the source of the improvement when it is actually the relationship itself that should get the credit. On the opposite side it can lead to mutual blame for making things worse when the fault lies with neither of you but in the structure of the situation itself. The great advantage of having the details of the composite chart available to you is that you can better differentiate the strengths and weaknesses of the situation from those which may lie within yourselves. The former you will have to work around on the exterior, the latter you will have to work from within. In tandem with the Sun, the Moon and its position will make or break most relationships. If the Sun and Moon are well-placed and well- aspected, the relationship is anything from a good bet to a sure thing, regardless of the other positions and problems that need to be worked out. If the Sun and Moon are badly positioned or afflicted, it will be an uphill fight all the way, and one that either or both of you may choose to set aside unless you feel compelled to spend a great deal of time, energy, and emotion rising to the challenge. Life is about choices, and here especially the composite chart can help supply the data you need to aid you in your selection.
You, global travelers of the heart, who can sample joys and pleasures of a breadth not so easily open to others have the emotional inclination to traverse worlds of experience together. You can share an intensity that suffuses all your activities and spreads an infectious brand of laughter and good will to those around you if you just let loose and enjoy it. One person’s problem can more easily be resolved by consultation with another and both can reach a conclusion that neither would have reached as an individual. Only be aware that it will be easier to come up with overall solutions than to resolve the individual details that come up once you have taken a given position. Thus, a certain look-before-you-leap advisory should be in effect, even when your immediate response seems clear and obvious. It’s the little things that will trip you up, and later rather than sooner, which makes them dubious at best. A sense of righteousness and justice will always be an overlay to the way you feel, and compromise will be a necessary route to achieve it even though it may seem to go against principle at the outset. As large a view as you have, reality is always larger and half the adventure of life is in finding out just how big things can really get.
Mercury in the composite chart represents the mutual meeting of minds, or lack of it, between you. It also represents your ability to communicate to others as a couple or as individuals. In the first instance, in which the position symbolizes the shore between two intellects, it will be important to know what kind of communication goes on: by style, substance, and action (sign, house, and aspect). A well-placed Mercury will mean that you can put clearly into words what you mean to say to each other, and such a position can be of great help in alleviating emotional problems that may not easily come to the surface. If you can both say how you feel, you’ve gone a long way towards being able to change. On the other hand, a badly placed Mercury can have the opposite effect, stirring up emotional problems where there were none by simply getting communications wires crossed. In a professional relationship this can mean all sorts of pointless starts and stops because of faulty information, particularly in an increasingly information-oriented society. The position of Mercury therefore becomes increasingly critical in relationships in general. Its placement also describes how you communicate as a duo with the public at large, so herein lies further opportunities for good or ill. Well-placed, it will mean that you may be able to get yourself across to the world at large through the relationship rather than on your own. Where there are difficulties here, it may be better to speak your own piece and not let the relationship represent you. Nevertheless, knowing the situation in advance can help enormously, as you won’t have to learn the communications value of the relationship by trial and error or blame each other for problems that arise from what is essentially a third party with its own horoscope, the relationship itself. Rather, you can take advantage of the best that it offers and avoid what looks like trouble by one or both of you pulling back on your own to handle problems the relationship does not cope with well.
A very concise and no-frills style of communication will characterize this relationship, even though one or both of you might be quite voluble individually. Ideas seem to congeal and simplify down to basics when you get together. If brevity is the soul of wit, you’ve got it. Making things shorter and sweeter when you’re trying to get things across will also add power and forcefulness, as a few chosen words are usually more powerful than a outpouring of verbiage, however sincere. It may also cause you to be misunderstood as if someone else doesn’t catch onto what you are saying; you’re more inclined to repeat yourself rather than rephrase in a manner more suitable to your audience’s level of communication. Here, one or both of you stepping out of the relationship and restating it differently can easily solve the problem. Just be aware that it may be necessary and keep an eye out for it. The ability to distill ideas into a few clear phrases is a rarity, however, so value it and hone it down to its finest edge. Once an idea is established for too long a time, it may get rusty therefore, make sure you go back and revise your opinions as time and change dictate. Nothing is permanent, only the moment, so take careful account of it. . .
The planet Venus represents desire, attraction, what you physically and emotionally desire and as a composite position describes where your desires meet and either blend or conflict, or a bit of both. This is too often applied to love interests alone, although it covers them as well. It means everything you desire - money, position, beautiful things, property, friends, lovers, anything that you want and believe if you get it, will make you happy. It also has another side which is your ability to appear to provide just such fulfillment for others, thus symbolizing personal charm, beauty, attractiveness, wealth, and so on. It’s the two-way wish fulfillment point where dreams are born. When this is viewed between two people as a composite point, it means how and whether you make each other’s dreams, on a very basic level, come true. If badly placed, it can mean continual desire and constant disappointment. If strong by position, it will be a buttress to the relationship, as you know you will always get what you want when you come back to it. It is, of course, critical in telling how a sexual relationship will unfold and can spell repeated ecstasy or constant frustration, especially taken in tandem with composite Mars. It also represents how well the relationship as a whole will be able to realize its goals and desires, which will of course be directly connected with its ability to make itself desirable, both of which are described by this composite point. Thus, an afflicted composite Venus is a double indemnity, because it usually prevents either of you from getting what you want out of each other, and it means the relationship will not get what it wants, either. Conversely, a well-aspected composite Venus is like a gift from above, as it means mutual success and satisfaction all around. In judging the overall success of a relationship, this is indeed a very important position.
A broad spectrum of taste will characterize this relationship, and you will find a variety of roads to realize your goals and ambitions and the patience to pick and choose the best ones as they manifest themselves. The real skill here is choice, as there will always be a number of different ways of getting what you want and it will be up to you to choose the best, although more than one might suffice. Your eclectic vision of satisfaction, however, requires that you do not focus on just one set of pleasures or situations in order to make the two of you happy, but rather spread out and provide yourselves with a wide variety from which to pick and choose, depending upon the moment. Noted for your ability to keep satisfactory control of many operations, you can manifest on three levels: physical, sexual or business. You want them all and with a little skill and practice you can have them. The nature of this chase often will be that you spend a lot of time on a variety of pursuits which take a while to manifest but then all come home to you at the same time. This can result in too big a meal when it finally manifests, so it is a good idea to start things up in succession, handling them all at their different stages of development simultaneously, and then enjoying them as they come to fruition one at a time.
Mars represents physical and emotional energy, and as such the ability and inclination to get things done, to fulfill desire by taking action. By itself it is really just raw energy, and its placement, particularly in relation to the other bodies in the chart, describes where and how well this energy will be directed. As a composite point, it describes how your two energy directions mesh and whether they will reinforce each other or simply get in each other’s way. It will tell whether sparks will fly, igniting random and destructive brush fires, or whether a controlled fire will blossom that will become the engine to power and fulfill your desires under your own direction. Its relationship to Venus, particularly in sexual relationships, is critical, as it will describe whether it will fulfill or deny your sexual needs. In both male and female it describes sexual drive as well as assertiveness and ultimately, aggression. Thus, a well positioned composite Mars allows the two of you to unite your energies naturally toward whatever goal you choose, while a difficult placing will put your efforts constantly at odds, wasting your efforts in mutual conflict or confusion when you should be utilizing them otherwise. As with Venus, this can be the greatest natural blessing or a terrible stumbling block. A strong composite Mars can energize and focus two people who are otherwise at sixes and sevens with themselves, and a troublesome one can throw the most balanced performers into disarray as they wonder what hit them to throw them so off balance. Thus, it will be wise to understand this position well so as to know whether to ride it or back off. It will also portray the power potential of the relationship as it exists in the outside world. A strong Mars has the energy to carry others along with it, whereas a disabled one will tend to break down already functioning operations in the relationships’ social surroundings. None of this suggests that a difficult Mars means you should forget about the relationship, however, as if one of you is simply put in charge in certain areas, mutually compartmentalizing the energy flow; the ill effect can be largely disenabled, albeit at the price of local inequality. It is something to be considered with care and attention, however, as herein lies much of your self-empowerment and control over your lives.
You share a great talent to insert your energies into a variety of situations and therefore become an agent of change. You will likely find yourselves eager to get involved in the projects of others in hopes of improving them, which in many cases you can achieve with success. It may be difficult to resist the urge to shift things around just to see how it will all turn out, so keep in mind that some situations are better left alone. The same applies for your attempts at self-improvement within the relationship, which itself will be subject to a lot of self-induced change that may be appropriate or turn out to be superfluous and counter-productive. It’s a judgment call, but take a second look before you rock the boat. Outside the relationship, your ability to recognize the need for and implement change can equally make you be viewed as welcoming healers or snooping meddlers, so walk with care, but don’t hesitate to exercise your talents when it’s obvious they are needed, and especially when requested. When you can not only tell when things are right, but can cause them to become so, it is your duty to yourselves and others to follow through with your best effort. The same goes for individual problems, which your joint action can go a long way towards bringing to light and providing solutions.
Jupiter in any chart represents the capacity for growth and expansion in relation to whatever it is connected. It means bigger, better, newer, faster, higher, and more developed. It is usually looked at only in the positive aspect, but it also has the potential to get out of hand if not checked and directed. The composite chart is the area that your mutual aspiration and inventiveness meet, a point where creativity is strong but which may or may not bring its potentials to fruition, depending upon its placement and how you handle it. Well-aspected it allows you to view realistically and act effectively upon what you determine together to make the relationship a spawning ground of limitless opportunity, more than either of you could manage separately. Debilitated, it can mean overblown expectations that come to nothing, biting off more than you can chew, situations that spiral out of control, and projects that perish under their own weight. But these ills aside, Jupiter usually does more good than harm and under most conditions it is the place to look for blessings. A solid composite Jupiter will mean that you can always look to the relationship to pull each of you up another step when you are stagnating and it will mean that others can look to the two of you for inspiration and new ideas. Where it is difficult, you will have to take the opportunity to restrain yourself now and again and develop only that which you think you can use at the time to avoid wasting your energies on unrealizable goals. It will show you where the big picture is and provide the kind of life overview which the relationship teaches that you might not have discovered on your own. It can be the force that carries you both away with each other and raises you to heights you didn’t know you had. Its only danger is allowing the relationship to take over you as individuals. Use it as a resource for each of you to draw on, not the other way round, and it will always pay off for you.
Because Jupiter is not well-placed in Capricorn, you will want to do all you can in this relationship to stimulate growth and welcome change where you can find it or you may find it can become stagnant and an emotional straight-jacket. In order to keep pace with your contemporaries and the changing mores of society, your relationship must break new ground from time to time. This may take some prodding, perhaps by one or the other of you taking the lead and letting the relationship follow along after you. Otherwise you may find yourself lagging behind, with less and less inclination to catch up, until you find yourself with a relationship that no longer has relevance to either of you. No position is without its advantages, however, and this one will favor a conservative approach to finance and business, which in, say, banking could take you far. Once you do get yourself moving, by whatever means, this also has the advantage of preventing you from overextending yourself and giving your new projects and commitments tight focus and narrow delineation; by limiting your parameters you insure yourselves of success. How easy it will be to manifest this position will be highly dependent on its house position and planetary aspects. Well-supported, it will be easy to live with and supportive in itself, ill-starred, it can be a bear.
Saturn is usually considered the bugbear among planets and has an evil reputation that it only partially deserves. It is associated with restriction, contraction, dearth, debilitation, and a host of other adjectives that add up to not getting what you want. That is, however, only partly true. It might be better to say that it describes extreme delineation, concreteness, and finality Ñ reality in the most concrete sense. Much of our lives are comprised of hopes, plans, desires, dreams, wishes, and expectation, and Saturn describes what actually becomes of them. So in such a goal-oriented, future-driven society as ours, what actually happens is all too often a disappointment, the result of failed unrealistic expectations. Thus, Saturn in the composite chart is where you both get down to brass tacks and determine (or have determined for you) what actually is to be. If this point is well-situated, it means that you can rely on each other and the relationship as something that delivers every time. It will lend solidity to the relationship and make it something you can lean on when either of you need to be backed up. It will also make the two of you a haven for others in distress. In a difficult position, it will mean that you tend to fail each other, to bring each other down, and to sap each other’s energies physically or emotionally. In this situation it can highlight the insecurities of the relationship and mark for failure what might otherwise have succeeded. But in either situation, like any other planet, it will not touch every aspect of the relationship and so you are free to be selective if you know what areas it is either supporting or restricting. You want to know what the bottom line is everywhere, however; and that is what Saturn will tell you. But you don’t have to invest in stocks you think are going to depreciate, either. If you recognize early what the downsides and the support pillars of the relationship are, you can use one to stand on while you either avoid or make repairs upon the other at your leisure. If you do not, ignorance is the ally of the dark side and it will have much greater power to pull you in and cripple you. Find your foundation stones early, so your house will not be built upon sand; and, in time, your temple will rise to the skies.
This is a difficult position for Saturn, as its conservative, stability-seeking nature is literally afloat in the miasma that is the sign of Pisces. It therefore represents a physical and spiritual challenge concerning the methods you go about seeking your security together. If you look for the standard principles to lean on, ones that seem to work for everybody else, you will likely find yourself ill at ease with them and unable to make them work for you. Instead you will have to find a way of deriving your innermost stability from the results of inner growth and a faith in each other’s ability to achieve it. If you ask for imposing results all the time, you’ll seldom get them or, when you need them, they will disappear. If you cast your bread upon the waters, you will be buoyed up by hands unseen and carried on to broader vistas, like a ship caught up in a current and carried to foreign lands. This requires being willing to give up a lot of control that is taken for granted as necessary by most and can make you feel quite insecure until you get used to it. It is mainly a matter of style here, however, as the results will be the same, just not the methods you find most successful to go about getting to them.
Uranus is one of the three relatively recently-discovered outer planets, and all three are marked with a reality common to new experience and endeavor. They are not fully explored and thus not very much under our control. Uranus has been known the longest, (since 1786), and is a bit more familiar. It is associated with sudden events, shocks, realizations, discoveries, and other highly delineated events that sheer off quickly and completely from their previous states or surroundings. For creatures of habit, such as most of us are, this is usually upsetting and generally bad news. But it does not have to be. Your ability to use Uranus instead of letting it abuse you, is directly related to how flexible and quick on your feet you are. It also is linked to how willing you are to accept and welcome change as part of the nature of things. If you accept it grudgingly, then Uranus will always be a symbol of malice; if you welcome it with open arms, it will be a deliverance and an inspiration. In the composite chart, Uranus is where the two of you are repeatedly forced to rise to this occasion, and its contacts will tell in what areas of life it usually manifests. Well situated, it is a mutual window onto the future, flooding you both with light and clueing you into what is coming next. In such a position, it will make the relationship an eye-opener, which you come back to time and again for more. It will also tend to put you both ahead of the game emotionally and socially placing you in a leadership position among others where future thinking is concerned. In a difficult place, it will mean that you bring to each other incidents and accidents in areas where you are the most entrenched and you force each other to come to grips with ideas with which you refuse to deal. This can be a source of great mutual blame: ÒYou made me get into this. If it weren’t for you, this never would have happened. . . Ó and so on. This is particularly the case in sexual affairs in a society that is at heart so sexually conservative (even backward) and yet ruthlessly courts danger by flaunting it everywhere as if it were an everyday affair. Perhaps the only way to deal with this planet is to expect the unexpected, thus robbing it of harm and providing it with a welcome. If you are ready to harness it - like a wild horse - you can ride it far. If you turn your back, it will surely trample you. Where this occurs in the composite chart, keep your eyes wide open, your stance wide, and your tolerance level on maximum.
The road to self-discovery is often a bumpy one, and Uranus is its key. In this relationship you will find that it is not as elusive as it often can be, and once you embrace a new concept, it will become a source from which you can draw. That will only be of benefit if you don’t look the gift horse in the mouth, but get in there and understand and use it, as difficult as it might be to handle at first. Otherwise it will become a thorn in your side and you’ll wish you were back in your previously unenlightened state and it would leave you alone. Change is often abrasive until you are conditioned to it, and often comes not in the guise of clear enlightenment but in the form of a nagging aberration in the relationship where the usual way of conducting yourselves does not work. It may come as the result of having to face a hidden peculiarity of taste or desire in one or the other of you which will not be buried easily. Turn toward it, not away from it, and go into the heart of the fire, even if it seems threatening or distasteful, as it is likely to be the diamond in the rough that allows you to leap to the next plateau of inner and outer understanding of how you both can work together. Ignored, it can become a debilitating thorn in your side and undermine your partnership. Take the opportunity in whatever guise it appears, particularly if it keeps showing up on the edges of the relationship.
The effects of Neptune, another outer planet and a recent discovery, are often largely out of our control both by our unfamiliarity with its effects and the apparent nature of the planet which represents the uncertain, dreams, illusions, ideals, mystery, and the higher unexplored (and perhaps unexplorable entirely) plane of the spiritual world. Its nature is so uncertain, it’s not even known exactly when it was discovered; various claims exist from 1810 all the way up to 1846, and we may never know for sure. It may be viewed from afar with a certain amount of analysis, however. When we find an area of mystery, it is our natural instinct to provide something to fill that void. Nature abhors a vacuum and our minds rush in to fill it with every kind of speculation and fantasy, if only to have something to act on in the area. Whatever is actually there will turn up eventually. In the meantime we provide ourselves with an image which may be close enough to the truth to better help us function or may be off in fantasyland and fail us utterly if we are unwise enough to lean on it. We know only in hindsight. Thus, in a composite chart, this point becomes the place where dreams, fantasies, hopes and ideals meet or clash, and inspire us or drag us down in confusion and conflict. Too many wars and personal battles have been fought over it needlessly, because none of these things actually existed until later. That’s the crux of it: don’t fight over what isn’t there, at least not yet. Well placed, this planet will help you aspire to higher, more selfless goals but even they can make you take them more seriously than they are. Badly positioned, it can lead to lies, deceit, and mistrust based on mutual misreading of the unknown and the foolish action taken upon it. In the end, it is a gentle, diaphanous planet that can never be forced. Dreams and fantasies belong to each of you individually; and when they are similar enough to share, whether emotionally, sexually, spiritually, or even financially, they can be the greatest of joys. If one of you tries to enforce any of it on the other, however, everything will turn distasteful and there will be no dreams left; the mist will be blown away and only a charred landscape will remain. Where this point occurs, go gently, expect nothing, and everything will be returned to you.
Your hopes and aspirations concerning each other and your mutual status in life may often be quite specific, which can make you quite goal-oriented and tenacious about what you want to achieve. It can also set you up for needless disappointment: things seldom turn out exactly as you expect, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t turn out well. Thus, when it comes to judging whether things are living up to expectations, you will do well to give yourself (and each other) a little leeway and ask not whether you got what you wanted but whether you can be happy with what you’ve got. This does not mean a lowering of values or expectation, just developing the ability to shift the details a bit and to see that when it’s all totaled up you really got as much as you had wished for, just not the same things you had set your heart on. Imagine a child opening a host of presents beneath the Christmas tree and then bursting into tears because the one most-desired toy on his or her wish list wasn’t included. That can make for a miserable holiday for everyone until the child stops seeing only the hole and looks at the rest of the doughnut. So it goes with you, and when you count your blessings, even while reserving the right to go after more, you’ll find your dreams more likely to come true and your illusions left where they should be Ñ behind you.
Of the three outer planets, Pluto is the most recently discovered (1930) and least subject to our control. As such, it is even considered the planet of power and control, ultimately because it so controls us in our attempt to overcome it. It is, of course, appropriately named after the ancient god of death, the thing which in the last analysis we cannot control; and at the most basic instinctual level, all the control we try to exercise in life is simply a ploy to cheat death a little longer. It is called the survival instinct. The point at which Pluto occurs in the composite chart is thus, at a deep level, where we meet in our ability to face death. But it doesn’t manifest itself that way on the surface. Instead, it shows up as the methods we use to keep control in order to avoid the certainty of personal annihilation. Well placed, it will mean a partnership that simply doesn’t worry about keeping in control of the situation, secure in the faith that things will take care of themselves and when it’s time to go, you’re in God’s hands. In a bad place or aspect, it will mean continuous attempts to gain power over each other and the environment (according to aspect, sign, and house) and a penchant for compulsive behavior that easily gets out of control. Or, rather, it was never in control to begin with. In some instances, particularly sexual, this can be heightened to mystic proportions, and though it can be playing with fire it can also be very revelatory. Where prominently placed, for well or ill, it will give the relationship an aura of inescapability and predestination, something that sweeps over you both (like sex or death) and takes you out of yourselves. Similarly, you may find the relationship itself has something of this effect on others, giving you a greater power (a power which you must be careful not to abuse) over those around you. In the end, however, it is the willingness to relinquish control as well as take it that resolves problematic issues. In the meantime, the ability to step away from the relationship and out of its sway, at least in Pluto-affected areas, can be an important safety measure.
The bottom-line issues of this relationship, those that will most strongly unite or divide you, will be those concerning how to handle the structure and behavior of the family unit, religion, personal and sexual morality, and other affairs of private life. These will often seem to be life or death matters, upon which you will risk your own integrity and that of the relationship. When you agree in these matters, you have an unbreakable bond that can carry you through a lot of adversity, but when you disagree you can be put at odds in the most intractable fashion. The greatest problem, where there is one, will be the difficulty in airing differences because of a disinclination to express them accurately and respect the other person’s position. They are grounded not in intellect, but emotion, and as such are more difficult to localize, examine, and adapt where necessary. Because they are major groundworks of personal control and defense, you can recognize them when you find yourself using such words as Òmust, Ó Óalways, Ó Ónever, Ó and other absolutes to which fallible mortals are not entitled to use, particularly in emotional affairs. If there is a way of understanding and circumventing the conflicts which these might bring, it may be to realize that you each have your own individual relationship with your Maker (or the Universe, or however you want to express it), which is not that of the other, or any other. You live with it, and you will die with it, and to force that special relationship on another is to directly fly in the face of the Creator. Make your own peace, and let others make theirs; that is ultimately all that is given to you. If you can do it together, ideally in unity, then you have achieved something special; but to do so you must tend your own garden first, because that is what you are ultimately responsible for.
You may notice that when you are together you create a larger-than-life image which at times may be difficult to live up to individually. It is as if you carry your own party around with you wherever you go and fire up those around you to get things moving. Sometimes you may find it more tiring to be the party host than the party guest, and you may need some quality time individually to rest and sort things out. Nevertheless, you are gifted with an energizing facade when you are together which you both can ride to give you an extra boost of enthusiasm, and you may find others looking to you for joint leadership who weren’t so supportive of you individually. It would be easy to resent that, but that’s politics and to a certain extent you make yourselves into public figures just by the chemistry of being together. Go for the playful and fun side of it and don’t take yourselves too seriously. You’ll find that your credibility and support in your social surroundings is heightened proportionately. Pride goeth before the fall, but the jester never comes to harm, so keep it light if you want to get good results. You don’t have to seek out being the center of attention; just let your feelings radiate and the world will beat a path to your door.
You may find that this relationship has a large element of fantasy in it, in that being together fulfills wishes that you both have and have not yet satisfied. At least you feel that way, and to the extent it is true this will be an especially fulfilling partnership. There may be a large element of projection here, and the facts may not live up to your beliefs about each other, which could lead to disappointment if you insist on each of you living up to the other’s expectations. However, if you are willing to let each other do what comes naturally, you can enjoy it when you’re getting what you want and not let an occasional disappointment weigh you down. It will often be difficult to separate fantasy from reality, and the best you can do is realize that and enjoy what you’ve got, whatever it turns out to be. From the outside, you’ll also find that other people will have the same difficulty sorting out what’s going on with you, so you’ve got a built-in smoke screen going for you whenever you need to use it and you’ll find that you can sell any story you want about yourselves as long as you deliver it with a straight face. Fundamentally, great reward can be achieved here if you are willing to use the relationship to elevate you to your ideals without leaning on it to deliver figments of your imagination. If you insist on results exactly the way you envision them, you will be ultimately disappointed.
This relationship is buzzing with intellectual energy and words fly back and forth at the speed limit of comprehension, sometimes faster. When you are in accord, this is a major benefit and allows the two of you to be models of self-expression. When you are not, it can be hard to keep track of whose argument holds water and what is just wasted words. This is a good position if you are involved in communication in general, as it gives you extra punch when it comes to getting your point across. You can be verbally forceful and not take no for an answer, even if only because the opposition cannot get a word in edgewise. Because you will be surrounded only by people who can keep up with you, you will find yourselves in fairly articulate company most of the time and you will not have to look far to get a second opinion when you need one. However, you should be aware that your enthusiasm for expressing yourselves and your opinions can cause you to miss valuable insight and information from those who are less vocal. From time to time you will need to draw out the opinions of others and back off while they have their say or you will not have a well-balanced view of your own reality. Use your enthusiasm for communication to help others get their point across and you will be the winners.
This is an ideal place to have the sun, perhaps the best of all. It is perfect for love and romance, fun, entertainment, and creativity and generally having a good time. Friendship will blossom and the relationship will likely involve you with others in a positive and outgoing fashion. Because of the playful nature here, children and their affairs are favored and you can relax and have fun in a more innocent and childlike fashion. In business it is good for ventures that require creativity and originality, especially where speculation is concerned, and the free flow of ideas and enhanced leadership ability is positive, indeed. If there is a down side, it might be an inclination to take on more than you can handle at one time and a possibility of spreading yourself too thinly both emotionally and financially so that you cannot do the job as thoroughly as is required. This applies to the personal side as well, where depth of feeling may be traded for immediate gratification and the more important inner issues become glossed over by the pleasures of the moment. Or, there may be the inclination to enjoy yourselves to the ultimate but hesitation or inhibition in bringing yourselves to your fullest potential. In general, the prescription is just go for it and it will work out fine. Where details get left behind, they may not matter, but you can pick up on them afterward once you’ve got your rhythm and the juices are flowing.
You may feel you’re walking on very soggy ground in this relationship, and indeed it can be quicksand if you do not watch your steps. Neptune in difficult aspect can bring confusion and deception, where fantasy and illusion lead to disappointment and even treachery. That is not quite as awful as it sounds, though its effects may be. It may not be intentional on the part of either of you. In this case, however, forewarned really is forearmed if you take action to be quite specific about your promises to each other and your expectations about the relationship. Go as far as writing it down or even making contracts, but don’t terminate things if it doesn’t turn out or you break the contracts. That’s part of this aspect, but it is the sincere effort to correct the problem that this approach allows you to focus on until such a time as you’ve got some more experience with each other under your belts and know better what to expect. Failed expectations are your greatest enemy, particularly early in the relationship, so the more you can cut back on what you think you’re going to get out of each other, the more likely you will be to actually achieve satisfaction together. It can be easy for this relationship to become a crutch for your individual lack of balance, and an unsuccessful one it would be. If you give each other enough room to express individuality, things can only be better when you are together again.
There is an air of destiny about your relationship, as if you are taking on something that will be with you for a very long time, perhaps much longer than a single lifetime. That, in fact, is very likely the case, and you will find that you are willing to make commitments from the heart with great sincerity and meaning, ones which you have every intention of living up to. Remember, however, that once you get yourself committed to things in this relationship, it is for a long stretch. You will not be able to let go honorably even when the situation gets rocky from time to time. Further, you will likely not get the intended payoffs you desire until well along and you must be willing to cheerfully bear burdens for both your sakes. As long as you realize that, your commitments will tend to cement the relationship together. If you get in over your head, it will have precisely the opposite effect and you will wind up with obligations you don’t want to honor and perhaps no relationship at all, kind of like wrecking your car before you’ve paid for it. That is a worst case scenario, however, and it is likely the good feelings here will outweigh any difficulties rash commitments might bring.
This is likely to be a very creative and playful relationship, where the first inclination, given the choice, will be to have fun, enjoy yourselves, and go for the good life. This makes this an ideal situation for a love affair and for anyone in the arts or any other endeavor where creativity is at the heart of the matter. It is also great for having and enjoying children, since its fresh and outgoing quality is that which children radiate and it makes spontaneous communication with them easy and natural. Not all of life is play, however, and it can also be easy to forgo necessary, though uninspiring, hard work in favor of another round of good times, putting off until tomorrow what really should be done today. That will be your natural reaction, and it will certainly keep Jack (or Jill) from being a dull boy (or girl), but balance your priorities carefully when this sort of decision is to be considered. All in all, however, your company is likely to be entertaining and sought by others and you will have your choice of friends as a result. When you feel good, so do others, and vice-versa, and you are likely to be a catalyst for both, just by being in each other’s company, as a general pick-me-up for each other and for those you choose to grace.
Great enthusiasm and a very high level of responsiveness will characterize your relationship and when you decide to jump in, you jump in with both feet. Professionally, it is a relationship that will produce and produce, and if this turns out to be a marriage it can also produce many children, which you will be able to handle well because you have a bottomless wellspring of emotion and care. A positive attitude and a quick recovery time mean that you will be a valuable resource for each other when one or the other runs out of steam and need a boost of energy. Somehow the chemistry will always get things going again. There will be little problem of repressing feelings until they magnify themselves beyond their real measure. Quite the opposite Ñ every feeling will come bounding out, one on top of the other. If there could be any problem with such a position, it would be that you might need to slow down a bit for others less ebullient so that you don’t overwhelm them. If there is a catch phrase that really describes this aspect of your relationship, it is Òbe fruitful and multiply. Ó Prosperity is a truly attainable goal for you, even in the worst of times. You will always put your best foot forward and your blessings will proliferate.
You will likely find yourselves to be physically in tune with one another, so you can read your next response before it happens. You just know you are going to feel the same way about something, and you do. In many cases, not a word will have to be spoken as your body language will say it all. In a love relationship, of course, this is everything to be desired, where emotional response dovetails so neatly with physical action and appearance. It is also very good professionally, because your responses are so consistent and in tune with each other that it is quite apparent you may be relied upon and will not contradict yourselves under fire. Thus you will find it easier to rise on the ladder of success, as you don’t struggle about climbing it. Emotional expression will run high as it has easy physical outlet, and it will also run smoothly as there is nothing to get in the way. You will always find yourselves accepting of and responsive to each other’s and other people’s emotional needs, and you may find yourselves more than once a shoulder to cry on because no one else will listen. It will not be a burden for you, either, as you have more than enough strength and feeling to shoulder the weight.
You can find that every time you turn around, you’ve gotten yourselves into a new agreement, made a new commitment, and generally tied yourselves down to responsibilities that are going to stay with you for a long time. Somehow this relationship makes you get into this sort of thing without a second thought, because it seems familiar, almost second nature to do so. It can certainly be easy to get tied together for a long time, but it will be wise to make sure that the urge to do so fits in with the individual plans you have for the future. A sense of fate can suffuse your decisions to take up long-term commitments, and that may indeed be the case, but don’t give up freedoms properly reserved for yourselves without due and serious consideration as to whether it will truly serve you individually and together. The commitments made will be most important when they are emotional, not physical or financial, and they will require coming together again in the future, so do not take them lightly. Good advice; but these sort of decisions have a way of making themselves, so at least go in with open eyes, realizing there is more going on here than just the power of the two of you. Embrace what comes your way with a positive willingness to make it a path to growth and reward.
This is a creative and fun-loving position for Mercury, and where your minds get together, you’re going to have a good time. When you’re having a good time it’s usually because you’re communicating with each other and pursuing pastimes which are conceptual in nature: learning, talking, participating in the creative and performing arts. It also allows you to intellectualize and better understand fifth house affairs, especially sexuality, which can greatly benefit by the temporary distance the mind gives it, allowing time to analyze and strip it of preconceptions and prejudices that can so inhibit enjoyment. It is also a good position for education and communication with children, as you will be able to open up to the freedom and playfulness that makes them special and enables them to become interested and learn. You may be accused of all play and no work, but that is because you have the ability to turn work into play, a rare and valuable talent that is opened up to both of you by this relationship. Further, this will lend a more youthful appearance to you when you are together, providing a boost of joy and energy to all concerned.
This relationship will bring to you both a sense of ever-expanding intellectual awareness and it is likely to be an adventure to get together and discuss things, as one thing always leads to another and before you know it you’re breaking new ground and have another totally new angle on whatever subject it is you’ve gotten into. No communication problems here, at least as far as getting things out in the open is concerned. Not all communication is verbal however, and some non-verbal emotional needs may get overlooked or lost in the shuffle because of the high value placed on articulation and intellectual communication. Professionally this can be a very inventive combination. Anywhere you have to get things into words and across to a customer or colleague you can bet that you will have the upper hand and have tangible benefits from being together. The only place this will put you at a disadvantage is where verbal restraint is required and where a few well-chosen words have to suffice. You have so much to say and so many ways to say it that it will be difficult to compress your thoughts and distill them into a single, succinct expression of intent. But where elaboration and extemporization are required, you will be in your element and can cook up an intellectual feast starting with a minimum of ingredients and serve it up with flare.
Clarity and originality are the grace of this relationship and you can pierce through the veil of illusion to get concrete results any time you care to. Your ability to express leading-edge concepts without seeming too far-out can enable you to leap ahead of competitors who are still struggling to make outdated systems work for them. This, of course, gives this relationship great professional potential in any area which is future-oriented and depends on the swift and accurate implementation of new discoveries. Even if you do not choose to express this talent in the professional arena, it will still be a continual eye-opener throughout your lives and will be a wellspring of personal growth and understanding. Because you will have a deep, abiding respect for the truth and the natural desire and ability to perpetuate it, you will find that you can be thought-provoking and inspiring teachers as well. When you have the opportunity to perpetuate your vision, you will not hesitate to pass on your insights so that others can implement your vision as well as yourselves. If there is anything that you will want to see continued, it will be an approach to discovery inside and out that proceeds at a non-disruptive pace. The greatest enemy of progress is often too much progress too soon, and what you have is the ability to judge just how far is too far and stop just short of it. It is an ability you will want to share.
Creativity will be its own motive and its own reward for you, and if you find yourself working on something you don’t actively enjoy, you may be barking up the wrong tree. Spontaneity and the ability to laugh and not worry about the final outcome will assure the final outcome is the best possible, and inhibitions are likely to be few at least in major growth and development areas. Thus you will find that professionally you can do well in the creative arts or any other area where spontaneous development of ideas and actions are at a premium. As a love relationship, easy and fearless sexuality will likely hold sway, with an emphasis on fun and pleasure rather than an obsessive passion. Overall you will maintain a kind of innocence and clarity that comes from direct experience of life and where this is emphasized and optimized, you will find your most profitable areas both personally and professionally. The more you make contact with and develop the children inside of you, the more tangible benefits you are likely to receive in the outside world, as well as finding life a lot more enjoyable overall. If you set yourselves goals, rather than limits, your reach will not exceed your grasp and your own enthusiasm will provide the basis of your success. Your limitations are bounded by your imagination and that will be the primary wellspring of your growth.
A natural inventive streak in this relationship means that you will not be the types to stick to the norm and toe the line of the usual rules. You will find new and sometimes distinctly unusual ways of personal relating and self-expression which might stretch the tolerance of more conservative types, but you will give yourselves enough space and freedom for them to work out. In a love relationship this can mean the willingness to go along with and enjoy practices that the more inhibited might disapprove. In fact, because you have an instinct of just how far to go, you’ll get the good side out of whatever experiments you try while avoiding their risks. In a professional setting, you will cook up refreshing new approaches to solving problems that may already have standard solutions, but you prefer to substitute your own or add a new twist. Since this is a benefic aspect, you’ll generally be able to succeed and be accepted for your original ideas because they are proposed in non-threatening ways and they work. Too often the truth is rejected because it frightens people or is presented too strongly, but you have the ability to put it forth in a firm but reasonable manner, which will usually get you your way. Public or private, this aspect will always have the effect of opening you up to the new and the wonderful.
There is a breadth of feeling and tolerance in this relationship that allows you to get on well with others in a social setting by serving as a channel for warmth and friendly expression. People will tend to see the positive side of things because you accentuate them quietly but firmly and turn the conversation upward every time you get the chance. You have a positive sense toward your own relationship as well and will be supportive of each other every chance you get. Self-improvement will be a major theme in your lives together, but it won’t be of the self-criticism type. Instead you will seek out new ways of expressing your partnership and new outlets for the talents you share, looking for steady growth and new territories to explore. Whatever troubles might beset you from time to time, you will always feel like there is a future to this relationship, since developing the future will be one of your strongest assets. As a personal relationship, you will likely find reward and positive feedback here, however the rest of your lives are progressing. As a professional partnership, you will do particularly well in support roles, not for lack of leadership abilities, but because you are so good at being supportive. When you lead, do so by corralling all the necessary forces together and making sure everyone has got what they need. Rather than being sheep, you will be the shepherds.
The way in which you take on personal commitments and their burdens and the kind of gratuitous events that accrue to your benefit or harm are what the Moon’s north and south nodes are about. They concentrate their effect in the area of spontaneous joy and creativity and affairs involving these areas of life. Thus, children may become a serious factor of responsibility and a challenge to fulfill what you have begun in their upbringing and education. Sexuality and its expression will be important and once you have gotten into it you will have to care enough to follow through and accept all the implications of the feelings you have expressed. In a strictly professional relationship, you will find yourselves committed to jobs and projects that require creativity and to succeed at them you will have to keep loose and fast on your feet. Surprises, both good and disappointing, will come not from left field, but from among your closest and dearest friends, as to these you will be the most open and therefore vulnerable to both reward and harm. How creative you are in your ability to respond to challenges in the first place will have a large impact on your ability enjoy the advantages that accrue to you from your personal contacts and your protection from difficulties that may arise from those who are most in a position to help you out or hurt you. The skills of giving and receiving feelings and emotions are the key to all of it, and the lessons you will feel this relationship has been created for.
This is a challenging position for Venus, as it means working for what you want and wanting to work, not for yourselves but for others. Thus, to a large extent, you will get what you want out of giving others what they want and sometimes denying yourselves. At a deep, spiritual level this is of course a high and wonderful ideal, becoming servants and helpers to the human race. Good karma. But it is not always the most enjoyable position to find yourselves in, when others profit from your efforts more than you appear to. Nevertheless, what goes around comes around, and to the extent that you show patience and tenacity and don’t expect immediate gratification, you’ll find the rewards forthcoming in the end. On the professional level, this is actually a good position for success in service industries as you will be more likely to enjoy them and be perceived as doing them well. On the personal level, you will need to be willing to play second fiddle and do your time in the pits and do it not just because you have to but because doing everything well needs to be looked at as its own reward. Only in that way do you perform at your best, by putting your own joy of life into it and by communicating that joy to each other and to those that you must willingly serve and work with.
You are not only likely to have a taste for the unusual in terms of emotional or sexual satisfaction, you are also likely to have difficulty getting enough of it or exactly the right kind. There is a restlessness of desire that can be very difficult to handle and you will need to give each other a lot of space to learn the lessons you will need to make this work. If you try to confine yourselves within the bounds of a conventional relationship, you are asking for trouble and you won’t get to first base in the way of solving the problem that this raises. That’s because what seems to be the problem, isn’t. It will seem at first that if you are allowed to go as far out as you want to satisfy one or both of you, everything will be OK. But when you allow yourselves to do so, you’ll find that you’re still not satisfied. The reason is that you are chasing the concept instead of living the experience. If you don’t give yourselves the opportunity to try it out, however, you’ll never have the opportunity to come to that conclusion. The remedy is neither inhibiting yourselves nor allowing yourselves excesses, but more fully experiencing whatever it is that you choose to do. Don’t move on to the next space until you have fully enjoyed where you are.
This is powerful and potentially dangerous aspect, one which can bring you revelation or make you wish you’d never met. It means that what you want you want very badly, and in a sexual relationship it can lead you to excesses that can make the act a religious one or something that puts you in the hospital. Because the level of desire is so greatly heightened, so is the fear of not getting what you want, which can lead to all kinds of power plays and manipulations one against the other so that one will be more or less in control of the other. If you are playing for real and for keeps, that’s when at least one of you will wish none of this had happened. No one wants to be a slave Ñ in reality, that is. On the other hand, in fantasy even the most dangerous and ordinarily harmful games can be played out, and if done with care and respect, lead you to deeper pleasure and self-understanding. If you are truly set up as equals in fantasy as well as reality, dominance does not have to come into the situation at all, but simply the deeper explorations of inner feelings, some of which may have been inaccessible before. As a professional relationship, this can be pretty cutthroat if you are not careful, as you will have the natural skill and timing to go out and take what you want without having to first ask if it’s OK. Since you will usually be able to get away with it, restraint will have to come from within.
Saturn gets very mixed reviews here, and it can either cement a relationship and make it solid as a rock or cause it to become sufficiently restrictive that you would rather avoid it completely. Or it can sometimes become a relationship that is excellent but rarely manifests itself. In the first case, you can find yourselves together because you are willing to impinge as little as possible on each other and thus show bottom-line respect for each other’s personalities. This was frequently the case in older traditional marriages where the separation of lives within the relationship was so extreme that inequalities of partnership were circumvented (a rerun of ÒLife With FatherÓ is a perfect example). In the second case, where you may for other reasons force a very equal relationship on each other in detail, it will more than likely be near-impossible and raise a lot of frustration and hostility in the process. In the third case, you may have the tightest of relationships during those few times you see each other and a fast though distant friendship comes to endure over the years. In all cases, the bottom line to success here will be letting each other be each other, rather than being overly possessive. Respect rules over affection, and good fences will make good neighbors and good friends. Just don’t push each other.
A major challenge of this relationship is achieving the strength and clarity to stand up to your convictions. That starts with defining what your convictions, ideals, and concepts of what ought to be really are. When you have done that, the rest comes easily, at least in this case. Because there is a swing from the creation and pursuit of dreams and ideals to the facing of cold, hard reality, you may think you don’t have a chance to get to first base with either one. Once you think you’re tuned into what your spirit asks you to do, reality breaks in and pragmatic considerations force you to settle for lots less. This kind of cyclic split is natural to the circumstances yet it may be easy to blame one party or another for it, polarizing one partner as being idealistic and spiritual and the other as realistic and pragmatic. That is the very thing you want to avoid and instead come together to realize that here you have the opportunity to crystallize and specify your dreams and ideals if you can work together to share and not divide the responsibilities. Whether it be in a personal/sexual relationship or a professional one, what you have the opportunity to do is bring to ground and manifest what you most highly esteem, even if that requires taking only the best and the essence and trimming the fat. If you look at it that way, instead of failing to live up to perfection, you have a long life to build on.
This is not the best place for Uranus if this is a professional relationship, as it will make your career efforts and results rather unstable and difficult to depend on. This is not to say without success, but without regularity, which make successes difficult to bank on. The same is to be said about publicity, which is often an important part of any business effort. When you most want it, nobody cares, and when you least expect it, everyone’s got their nose in your business. The same may go for your private life as individuals, where you will need to look out for rumors that come up overnight and get easily blown out of proportion (albeit, usually with a basis in fact). If you are quick on your feet, you can pounce on unexpected opportunity and get a lot of mileage out of it, but like riding in a plane without a fuel gauge, you never know when the tank will run dry and down you go, so it’s better to land earlier than later. You will need nerves of steel and a lot of luck to go far under such circumstances. So take what comes but don’t rely on when and where opportunity will knock. Just be sure that it will, and loudly when it does.
Any power conflicts you may have (and everyone has some) need to be watched out for and brought to the surface as soon as they occur. In fact, you probably should have a standing sonar unit to look out for them as they will tend to be deeply submerged and well-developed when they finally do come to the surface. When they catch you unaware, they can be very destructive and confrontations for seemingly no reason at all can blossom into full-scale wars that could never have been predicted in advance, mainly for lack of early warning reconnaissance. On the other hand, once you decide to focus on the exploration of the unconscious sides of yourselves, that will become a driving force that will not only make up for previous neglect but perhaps tip the scales in the other direction. However you look at it, the unconscious side of the relationship, particularly where conflict may be concerned, will likely have an important part in what you experience. If you are only related professionally, the same principles will apply, but will manifest themselves in the possibility of the real concern of danger or attack from unknown or unexpected quarters. Although this can become a bit paranoid and get a bit obsessive from time to time, it is still all too often based on reliable instincts and a proper sense of self-protection. Protect your backs.